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When we began to spread the word that we were expecting, my husband received the obligatory “Daddy Books” the likes of which are half read and gathering dust.  Much like Katherine Heigl’s character in Knocked Up, I had a mini melt down (or 2) when I felt like D was not being fully invested and reading those damn books.  I really wanted him to read those books because I was avidly reading about baby products, what to to expect during pregnancy, and what to do when you bring home baby.  I felt like the pressure was on for me to know EVERYTHING, and wanted him to share the burden.  When I asked D why he didn’t seem to like the books they were deemed uninformative and slightly lame.  I was really looking for some resource to better instruct hubby on what to do and how to handle me!

I found some sage advice for D in a very unlikely place.  Once pharmaceutical companies add your name to the soon to be parent marketing list,  you begin to receive all kinds of things in the mail.  Diaper samples, coupons etc.  A few weeks ago I received some formula samples in the mail from Similac (Abbott Labs).  Inside the box on a small fold out piece of paper I found the best advice for Dads to live by during delivery!

Here is what it said:

How To Be a Hero During Delivery*:  Having a baby is a memory you’ll both share for the rest of your lives.  Here’s how to make sure she doesn’t remember it for the wrong reasons.

  • No wincing.  She feels vulnerable enough during delivery and doesn’t need you reacting like you’re watching a horror movie.  Remember, it’s a beautiful miracle.
  • It’s not a roast. If she’s feeling awkward, she might poke fun at herself.  Don’t take this as an opportunity to craft your own zingers.  Tell her she looks beautiful and stick to it.
  • Never say, “It’s not that bad”. Some “clever” dads think that understating her discomfort will lessen the pain of delivery.  Ditch the Psych 101 tactics.  She needs empathy, not therapy.
  • Swallow your pride. She might yell at you. She might insult you.  Hey, she’s scared. She’s in pain. And she trusts you enough to vent.  So take it like a man, big guy.
  • Careful with the camera. If she wants you to document the delivery, great.  But leave the commentary and creative camera angles to Spielberg.  You’re making a baby movie, not an action movie.

I think I may plasticize this little card and tuck it into my hospital bag!

(*taken from Similac “The StrongDads Hospital Checklist”)
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I meant to publish this a few weeks back, but the holidays got the best of me.

My husband had a “milestone birthday” this year and to celebrate it I suggested a weekend centered around one of his favorite pastimes – golf.  Seeing that I would be in my final trimester of pregnancy during this time I suggested going to Palm Desert for his birthday (an hour & a half drive) and inviting family & friends to play some golf and enjoy the desert.

We decided to do something we had never done before – we rented a house via the website VRBO.com.  VRBO is short for Vacation Rental By Owner.  I had suggested the website to a friend who subsequently  rented a house in Carmel for our wedding via the website, and the experience had been a huge success…so I figured, why not?!

The house we rented in La Quinta was amazing! Located right on a driving range of a PGA West course it was every golf aficionado’s dream.  The added benefit for those not golfng (like yours truly) were that the pool and kitchen were an entertainers dream.  I would definitely rent this particular property again and use VRBO.

There were some pros and cons to renting a vacation house:

Pros:

  • Privacy
  • A central place for all of your guests to congregate
  • No need to go out for meals or entertainment
  • Great if you have small children
  • Some properties allow pets without extra charge (no boarding fees = savings!)

Cons:

  • Putting a deposit down far in advance
  • Final payment due 45  days before arrival
  • You never know what small appliances will be there or what the condition of linens, kitchen items etc. are before you get there (we were pleasantly surprised!)
  • You take a leap of faith relying only on pictures and reviews before signing on the dotted line

We have often talked about buying a vacation house, but this is such a great option and we can head to a different locale every time!

With only a week left until my due date I sadly suffer from a few pregnancy side effects.  The worst of which are my swollen hands & feet making it difficult for me to stand for extended periods of time in the kitchen while prepping a meal.  With my in-laws in town last weekend I was looking for a recipe that allowed me to prep at my own pace and to cook hassle free.  I found the answer in the Barefoot Contessa Back to Basics!
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Barefoot Contessa Back to Basics

Not only is her Company Pot Roast recipe easy to prep for;  I could stick it in the oven for 2 hours while sitting down with my feet propped up and the leftovers are great to freeze!

It turned out to be a big hit with everyone!  The meat was ultra tender, and the sauce rich and slightly tangy from the wine and cognac.  Lip smacking good with some crusty French bread to soak up the sauce!   Speaking of the sauce I think I’ll make some buttered egg noodles to pour the extra sauce over – deeeelish!

Here is the link to the recipe on the Food Network site:  Company Pot Roast by Ina Garten.

Card from Bonnie Marcus Stationary

I’m at the end of my pregnancy journey with only days left until our little one makes her debut.  I wanted to write my list of mom’s “pregnancy must haves” while they are still fresh in my mind.

  • The Bella Band When your jeans start getting a wee bit too tight this accessory is key.  It allows you to unbutton, even unzipper your pre-pregnancy jeans for as long as you can hold out before buying maternity jeans.  Also, if you have shirts that don’t seem quite long enough because of your expanding belly the Bella Band covers the part of your tummy that the end of your shirt can no longer reach!
  • Maternity Jeans – You’ll find a lot of your favorite brands now make jeans for us preggos.  I found that A Pea in the Pod carries my favorite Joe’s Jeans in a maternity style…it made me feel fashionable as I was expanding.  I know they are pricey, but well worth it if you normally live in your jeans!
  • A maternity Little Black Dress.  As a gift, my friend Catherine sent me one of the most useful items in my pregnancy wardrobe.  A versatile black dress by NOM.  I wore it early on in my pregnancy up until the days leading to delivery.  I wore it to a rehearsal  dinner with some fabulous heels and to the grocery store with flip flops.
  • Palmers Cocoa Butter Lotion for Stretch Marks – smells horrible, but no stretch marks here!
  • Expecta Lipil (in addition to your prenatals) – DHA is important for your developing baby’s brain function.  I asked my OB about the max I could supplement with.  We agreed I could take an Expecta Lipil in addition to the prenatal I take which also has DHA.  Ask your OB if it’s appropriate for you.
  • Flip Flops – Despite the fact that I claimed I would be wearing my Gucci pumps to the hospital, my feet have swollen up and look like Fred Flintstone’s feet.  Get yourself some comfy flip flops or shoes!
  • Tylenol – Helped me make it through a really bad cold and my 1st trimester when I would get really bad headaches.  It’s one of the few pain relievers you can take.
  • The Mayo Clinic Pregnancy Book – A great medical guide!  Tells you what to expect at certain stages of pregnancy, what is normal and if you should call your Dr.  They also have a great web resource.
  • Baby Bargains – This book was a huge help when I started trying to create a baby registry, which can be overwhelming.  Gives you the skinny on essentials vs non essentials and best in class according to category.
  • Baby 411 – A guide for what to do when baby gets here!
  • Lots of pillows! – I didn’t want to buy one of those snuggie pillows.  They are huge!  Where would I store it post baby, and how would me, my husband and the snuggie pillow all fit in a Queen sized bed?  My solution was building my own pillow fortress.
  • Tucks Pads & Preparation H – Just trust….buy it as insurance and hope you don’t have to use it.

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